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Instructions for Life by The Dalai Lama

Instructions for Life by The Dalai Lama

  1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
  2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
  3. Follow the three R’s: 
    -  Respect for self, 
    -  Respect for others and 
    -  Responsibility for all your actions.
  4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
  5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
  6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great relationship.
  7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
  8. Spend some time alone every day.
  9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
  10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
  11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and 
    think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
  12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
  13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
  14. Share your knowledge. It is a way to achieve immortality.
  15. Be gentle with the earth.
  16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
  17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
  18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
  19. If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.
  20. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.

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The “Oh Shit” Moment

Posted on December 19, 2011 by Josh Linkner

You probably know it well. That sinking feeling in your gut where you feel like you just got punched by Tyson. Heart-pounding, head-throbbing, room-spinning agony. We’ve all been there. Perhaps it was losing a huge client, a key team member jumping ship, or a major technology glitch. Or maybe it was a sharp scolding from a boss, an unexpected job loss, or that big setback you’ve been dreading.

Oh shit.

These are the moments we fear; the ones that nightmares are made of. The times when we feel powerless, overwhelmed, and are left spinning with hopelessness and despair. You’re not alone…Every great leader, hero, and champion has had them too.

The real question isn’t whether or not you’ll experience this acute terror. Assuming you are pursuing anything worth doing, you will. The question becomes, how will you react?

Some of us cave to the pressure. We roll on our backs like helpless dogs exposing their vulnerable bellies. We allow ourselves to become victimized by the event, and relinquish our power to the callous circumstances. We let things happen to us.

Luckily, you need not suffer this hapless fate. Instead, you can regain your power and use the setback as a “teachable moment.” Rather than judging it, you can look at it as information that is helping you grow as a person or organization.

Throughout my own career building startups for the last 21 years, I’ve had my fair share of these moments. But now looking back, each of these painful setbacks turned out to be a blessing. In fact, many of my biggest breakthroughs came just after events that appeared to be devastating losses.

Often our biggest moments of growth come from our darkest moments of adversity. Life has a funny way of teaching us and sometimes those painful wake-up calls can be just the jolt we need to effectuate change. In these moments, you have a choice. You can cower in the corner like a guilty child, or you can use the sting as an opportunity to strengthen your resolve. You can own it, take personal responsibility, and leap into action with unwavering commitment. Even when it’s tough and you want to hide.

The most successful people have bad days too. We all stumble, but the champions don’t let speed bumps derail their journey. Instead, they look straight into the abyss and extract every valuable lesson that can be gained. And you can too.

That dreaded “oh shit” moment will likely crop up when you least expect it. The next time it does, don’t run from it. Seize it. It’s simply an opportunity for you to shine and grow.

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Five New Management Metrics You Need To Know

(via Forbes)

This is a guest post from James Slavet of venture firm Greylock Partners. Slavet’s investments include Coupons.com, Groupon, One Kings Lane and Redfin. Greylock Partners has invested in Facebook, LinkedIn and Pandora..

After years of leading teams and then, at Greylock, watching some of the best startup CEOs in the world, I’ve learned that the most important metrics are often ones you never read about on the income statement or in the financial press.

“If you can measure it, you can manage it” is a business saying that goes way back. Maybe it was Henry Ford who said that, or Peter Drucker? Regardless, most managers only measure outputs, not inputs, which is like telling a Little League team to score more runs, rather than actually explaining how to swing a bat and make contact with the ball. Similarly, most companies measure traffic, revenue or earnings, without considering how to improve the company at an atomic level: how to make a meeting better, or an engineer more productive.

Here are five metrics that great teams should measure:

Metric 1: Flow State Percentage

Jobs that require a lot of brainpower—software programming for instance—also demand deep concentration. You know that feeling when you’re “in the zone,” cranking on something. That is flow, a term coined by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Unfortunately, most of us are constantly interrupted during the day with meetings, emails, texts, or colleagues who want to talk about stuff. These interruptions that move us out of “flow state” increase R&D cycle times and costs dramatically. Studies have shown that each time flow state is disrupted it takes fifteen minutes to get back into flow, if you can get back at all. And programmers who work in the top quartile of proper (ie uninterrupted) work environments are several times more productive than those who don’t.

Ideally programmers and other knowledge workers can spend 30% – 50% of their day in uninterrupted concentration. Most office environments don’t even come close. To get started, ask your engineers to track for a few days their personal flow state percentages: how many hours each day are they in flow, divided by the number of total hours they’re at the office. And then brainstorm ways that the team can move this number up. For example, perhaps there’s a little paper sign at each person’s desk that says “Go Away, I’m Cranking.” Or maybe you have a day where no meetings are allowed. Tom Demarco has written insightfully on the topic of flow.

Metric 2: The Anxiety-Boredom Continuum

Years ago, back when I was younger and cooler, I took a salsa class with my wife-to-be where the instructor said something that really stuck with me. He said that his goal was to keep all of his students in the pocket between boredom and anxiety – but closer to anxiety. In other words, we shouldn’t be so overwhelmed that we break down and give up, but we also shouldn’t be coasting either. He kept the rhythm fast enough so that we were challenged, but not so difficult that we lost the steps completely. And he kept tuning the difficulty level of the class to stretch but not break us.

This same anxiety-to-boredom continuum also applies to managing people. Star performers can get bored easily, and often function best when they’re expected to rise to great challenges. You want expectations to be high, but not completely overwhelming. With this in mind, check in with your employees periodically about where they are on this continuum, while also keeping an eye out for signs of where they stand. If they have low energy, or are showing up late and leaving early, they may be bored. If they’re responding to small setbacks with anger or frustration, or getting sick a lot, they may be pushing too hard.

Metric 3: Meeting Promoter Score

Most meetings suck. And they’re expensive: a one-hour meeting of six software engineers costs $1,000 at least. People who don’t have the authority to buy paperclips are allowed to call meetings every day that cost far more than that. Nobody tracks whether meetings are useful, or how they could get better. And all you have to do is ask.

In the last minute of a meeting, ask the participants to each rate from 1 to 10 how effective the meeting was, with one suggestion for making the meeting better. It can be on a scrap of paper, or a simple web form. Verne Harnish has some good ideas about running better meetings.

Metric 4: Compound Weekly Learning Rate

My three year old son just asked me what the word “expert” means. When I answered, he nodded and asked “so am I an expert about superheroes yet?” The best leaders hold on to this relentless curiosity. Joi Ito wrote recently about “neotony”, the retention of childlike attributes in adulthood. This ability to learn is like the compounding interest on an investment: after two or three years, a relentless learner stands head and shoulders above his peers. Jeff Weiner, the CEO of LinkedIn, referred me to Joi’s posting. Jeff is one of the most relentless learners I know, and this quality is an essential element of his success and the success of his teams. So try asking your team this question: how did you get 1% better this week? Did you learn something valuable from our customers, or make a change to our product that drove better results? As your team gets into a learning rhythm, you can review this as a group. 1% per week adds up.

Metric 5: Positive Feedback Ratio

You can learn as much from John Gottman as you can from John F. Kennedy about being a great communicator. Gottman, a psychologist, is the author of “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail”.

In his research, he found that marriages that succeed tend to have five times as many positive interactions as negative ones. And when a couple falls below that ratio, their relationship falls down too.

The same is true at the office, where you’re often connected for years in relationships with people who can either become wary of your criticisms or eager to give you their best effort. Catch people doing good things. Never miss a chance to say something nice, even if you feel a little silly. Then when you have feedback on areas to improve, they‘ll really listen. It may be hard to manage to the 5:1 ratio at the office, but you should be mindful of the balance.

So, there you have it, 5 metrics that will never show up in the best companies’ financial statements or a Wall Street Journal article, but are the kinds of reasons those companies succeed. Tracking these five metrics isn’t glamorous. But it’s something everyone can do. And it really works.

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The Highest High

There’s nothing higher than finding truth on your own.

All worlds were made, all barriers put in place, every veil over G‑dliness hung, and the soul plummeted from its pristine height into the confusion of this harsh world—

—all for this one thing alone: That you should uncover truth on your own.

(Based on letters and talks of the Rebbe, Rabbi M. M. Schneerson)

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The Seven Stages of Our Personal Identity and Motivation

These stages can help us identity who we are and what we stand for.

Without a sense of our own identity we are lost. We do not know where we belong.

When we say “I am this”. or “I am that” we are indicating to ourselves and others the affiliations or association that are important to us. We are also telling people indirectly who or what we care about.

But what happens when we are feeling lost and stuck. The following seven stages can help us identify our identity so when we look in the mirror we can define ourselves…….

Seven Stages of Personal Identity and Motivation:

Survival- is about satisfying our physiological needs and creating a safe and secure environment for ourselves to grow. - by Surviving- we stay alive and we find comfort in our lives.

Relationships- is about satisfying our need for belonging and being loved and accepting those we interact on a daily basis- byrelationships we are Conforming- staying safe and loyal to the people in our lives.

Self esteem- is about satisfying our need to feel good about ourselves, its about managing our lives and to have pride in our performances- by self esteem- we begin to separate ourselves from others.

Transformation- is about becoming more of who you are and about uncovering our authentic self and aligning our mind heart and soul. by Transformation We are exploring who we are and what our talents are… as Carl Jung states you are individuating.

Internal Connection- is about finding meaning to your life by aligning with your passion and purpose and creating a vision for the future- By Internal Connection we are self actualizing -we are aligning ourselves to fully be who we are meant to be.

Making A Difference- is about actualizing our sense of purpose by cooperating with others for mutual benefit and fulfillment in our lives- by Making A Difference we are integrating and aligning ourselves with others who share the same purpose

Service- is about devoting our life to self-less service in pursuit of our passion and purpose by Service we are fulfilling our destiny by giving back to the world.

Our mission if we choose to accept it is…. to surrender to our heart. To master the seven stages and stay focused on our vision- mission and purpose.

because if we do…..then and only then will we have the ability to respond to the challenges life brings us.

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The Window

The Window


By Yanki Tauber

It happened before: a world drowning in violence awaited redemption. Waited for divine action, because man had done all that was in his power and the rest was up to G‑d.

Man waited in a sealed ark, but the ark had a window. And from the window a dove was dispatched to circle the skies, to agitate the heavens with its restless reconnaissance. For the next four thousand years its spread wings and the olive leaf clutched in its beak would symbolize humanity’s quest for harmony and peace.

No, waiting is not a passive endeavor. On the threshold of redemption, we must open windows through which to look upon a harmonious tomorrow, and through which to dispatch winged emissaries to hasten the divine response from on high.


The Book of Genesis (chapters 6–8) relates the story of the great deluge which swept the earth in the dawn of human history.

Outside the ark that Noah had built and populated by divine command, the flood raged, the violent culmination of a violent world. Within, Noah presided over a miniature universe: his family; and—as G‑d had instructed him—“of all living things, two of each kind, a male and a female; and specimens of every food that is to be eaten . . . to keep seed alive on the face of the earth.”

For forty days and nights the rains fell, followed by five months in which the waters swelled and churned, cleansing the earth for the promise of a new beginning contained in the floating ark. Finally, the waters calmed and began to recede.

Noah then opened the window in the sealed ark and sent out a raven “to see if the waters had subsided from the surface of the earth.” The raven, which refused the mission, was followed by three doves: the first returned immediately, indicating that the flood’s waters still engulfed the earth; the second came back in the evening, clutching “a plucked olive leaf” and the promise of a new life for earth. The third did not return at all, informing the ark’s inhabitants that the earth was ready for habitation.

Why did Noah dispatch these winged emissaries? Obviously, he was eager to rebuild, to replace the mayhem of the flood with a new, harmonious world. However, it would seem that Noah would have had little use for whatever information these “reconnaissance flights” might provide him. In fact, even after he was convinced that the flood was over, Noah could not act on his own assessment that the earth was ready for a new beginning to take root. Noah had first entered the ark by the explicit command of G‑d, and as long as he did not receive further instructions to the contrary, the divine injunction, “Come into the ark,” remained in force. Only upon being commanded to “go out from the ark” and “be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth”—commands which came several weeks after the third dove’s mission—could he begin settling and developing the world outside the ark.

Hence the question: For what purpose did Noah dispatch the raven and the doves?

Contemporary Arks

Rabbi Israel Baal Shem Tov explains the relevance of the divine instruction to Noah, “Come into the ark,” to our daily lives. The Hebrew word for “ark,” teivah, also means “word.” Come into the word, says the Almighty to each and every one of us; enter within the words of prayer and Torah study. Here you will find a haven of wisdom, meaning and sanctity amidst the raging floodwaters of life.

The word that the Torah uses for the flood is mabul, which means disorder and confusion. Our world is a mabul of moral disarray and distorted priorities. But even as the chaos of a still unperfected world churns about us, we have the ability to create, as did Noah, an island of tranquility and perfection, sheltered by the protective words (teivot) of Torah and prayer.

Furthermore, the personal havens we create are not confined to the interior world of our minds and hearts. As was the case with Noah’s teivah, we also bring “specimens” from the outside world into the sanctity of our “ark.” Through our observance of the mitzvot, we employ a great variety of creatures and elements to fulfill G‑d’s will: the animal hide that is made into tefillin, the wool spun into tzitzit, the food which provides the energy to pray, the money given to charity. These are all “brought into the teivah”—made part of a personal universe that is wholly devoted to good and G‑dly pursuits.

But our personal arks are not ends in themselves. It is not sufficient to bring “samples” from the outside into the insulated havens of Torah and prayer, and content ourselves with these pockets of perfection adrift in a strife-torn world. Our “arks” must also serve as the seeds from which a new world, embracing the entirety of creation, will grow. Our mission in life is to create a world free of greed, jealousy and hate, a world suffused with the wisdom and goodness of its Creator; to translate the G‑dly perfection of our personal teivot into the divinely perfect world of Moshiach.

The directive, “Come into the ark,” which characterizes our task during the mabul-years of history, is but a prelude to the “go out from the ark” era of Moshiach, when the holiness and perfection of a Torah-defined existence will extend to all of creation.

Awaiting Word

As with Noah, we must await the word. It is not for us to decide that the era of Moshiach has begun. It is by G‑d’s command that we entered the “ark,” and it is He who will send Moshiach to herald the new dawn.

This may lead to the belief that we must passively wait for the redemption. Therein lies the lesson of Noah’s winged emissaries: well before he was commanded to “go out from the ark,” Noah opened a window to the outside world. As soon as he sensed signs of the flood’s abatement, he dispatched messengers to “test the waters” and confirm the fact that the world was ready for rebirth. Noah did not content himself with developing the inner world of the teivah while allowing history to take its course, but did everything in his power to establish the world’s readiness, thereby hastening the divine empowerment to make his ark a universal reality.

Today, we find ourselves at the same crossroads that Noah faced forty-one centuries ago. All around us, we detect signs of a world that is bettering and perfecting itself, beating its nuclear swords into the plowshares of aid to the hungry, and accepting the principles of freedom, justice and compassion as universal givens. Amidst this calming and abatement of the mabul’s waters, we cannot, and must not, closet ourselves in our insulated arks, concerning ourselves only with the perfection of our individual lives and communities, waiting for G‑d to send Moshiach. We must throw open the windows of our arks and reach out to a world that is shedding the turmoil of its mabul past. Our continued efforts to establish that the world is indeed ready for redemption will hasten the divine word from on high, instructing us that the era of universal peace is upon us.

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Perpetual Struggle

Based on letters and talks of the Rebbe, Rabbi M. M. Schneerson

Some think life is all about doing good and keeping away from evil. To them, struggle has no purpose of its own — to have struggled is to have failed. Success, they imagine, is a sweet candy with no trace of bitterness.

They are wrong, very wrong. Struggle is an opportunity to reach the ultimate, when darkness itself becomes light. In the midst of struggle, an inner light is awakened. Light profound enough to overwhelm the darkness, encasing it and winning it over.

But if darkness never fights back, how will it ever be conquered?

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The Power of Not Thinking

Thinking has a profound effect. So does not thinking.

A mind obsessed with yesterday’s travesties, today’s aches and pains, and tomorrow’s dark clouds, creates problems where none exist.

It transforms daydreams into realities, molehills into monstrosities, innocent creatures into venomous snakes. All the more so when such words pass the lips into the tangible world we all share.

That is why simply turning your back to those thoughts is such a powerful form of healing—for every sort of illness. Distract your mind to good thoughts, productive thoughts, thoughts of confidence in the One Who Made You, and especially thoughts of Torah.

Heal your mind and heal your soul. You will heal your body as well.

~ Based on letters and talks of the Rebbe, Rabbi M. M. Schneerson

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Change By Doing

People are not changed by arguments, nor by philosophy. People change by doing.

Introduce a new habit into your life, and your entire perspective of the world changes.

First do, then learn about what you are already doing.

~ by Tzvi Freeman. Based on teachings of the Rebbe

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Chutzpah

The first thing you must know before anything else applies: Truth demands chutzpah. If what you are doing is the right thing to do, don’t give two cents about what others have to say.

Without that knowledge secure in your heart and soul, don’t imagine you can take a single step forward. Once you’ve passed its test, then you can begin to grow.

~ from the teachings of the Rebbe